Post-Pandemic (Co) Parenting

The only constant in life is change. This statement has never been more true than now. Since the onset of the Pandemic families have dealt with work from home, school from home, the Great Resignation, closed businesses, wages up, and wages down. Current inflation is adding even more pressure. Co-Parents are struggling as never before to work through possession schedules, child support, and health concerns as the pandemic marches on.

If schedules have changed for parents or even for children, it is prudent to be as open and flexible as possible. The children are the ones who will suffer the most if one parent now has to work late on Thursdays and the other won’t discuss changing the possession schedule. It is important to work out a schedule that is both practical and fair, even if it differs from the original parenting plan. Mediation is recommended when Co-Parents have difficulty working it out between themselves.

Child support adjustments have been the source of many recent filings in family courts. Through the Pandemic, some parents have lost wages while others have seen wages rise. Cost of living has certainly risen. Each family’s particular situation might be unique, but it is important to reassess when there is significant change in income or expenses. For some families, past due child support may be the major concern. For others, it might be an adjustment as wages have risen or fallen. Most importantly, maintain communication with your co-parent. and be ready to provide documentation of a change in income. By working together it is possible to avoid costly court action. If you and your child’s other parent cannot reach agreement, consider reaching out to your state’s child support division or to a family mediator.

Health concerns are in the forefront as we learn to navigate the Pandemic as a society and can present new challenges to Co-Parents. Mask or not? Vaccinate or not? Visit grandparents? Homeschool? Co-Parents must prioritize working through these controversial issues together. Be mindful to keep disagreements private and to avoid arguing with or undermining the child’s other parent. Family mediators are specially trained to help Co-Parents work through these issues in a private and respectful manner.

The COVID-19 Pandemic has certainly brought challenges to all, but Co-Parents have been especially impacted. Whether dealing one or all of the issues discussed, remember that communication and respect are essential to working through this new normal. Some families will be able to work through the issues independently, but many more may benefit from the assistance a family mediator..

Call or text today to discuss your options.

Kimberly Barahona

Barahona Consulting & Mediation

832-439-3581